Support starts with asking, not assuming. Let the person decide what they want to share and what kind of help would be useful. You do not need to know every private detail to offer care and respect.
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Start with a brief question, without sharing your medical history. We don’t provide diagnosis, prescribing or emergency care. If you feel seriously unwell, seek urgent medical help.
Start with listening
□ Ask: “Would you like me to listen, help you find information, or help with something practical?” □ Listen without pressure or judgment. □ Let them choose whether to talk and when to stop. □ Avoid comparing their feelings with someone else’s experience.
Offer specific, practical help
□ Ask whether transport, company, food, childcare or time to rest would help. □ Check before arranging anything or contacting someone on their behalf. □ Respect their preferences about appointments and who attends. □ Leave room for their needs to change.
Protect their privacy
Do not share messages, photographs, health details or their story without permission. Ask how and when they would like you to contact them, especially if a phone or device is shared.
Know the limits of your role
You can help someone find reliable information and prepare questions. Personal treatment questions belong with a qualified healthcare professional. For urgent symptoms, use appropriate medical care rather than a comment thread or website inbox.